The Miracle Question: Get Clarity on Your Goals

33804138_m_normal_none

Most of us have something we would like to improve in our life.  When people come to counseling, creating change is usually their goal.  When you want change in your life it is important to get a really clear picture of what change you want.  It is important to get an understanding of how you will know when things have changed.  A cool way to get this information is the Miracle Question.  The Miracle Question asks, “Suppose that tonight a miracle happened when you were sleeping.  When you awake tomorrow the challenge that you are here to work through is gone.  Describe your day from the moment you wake up.  What do you notice?  What is different?”

The great thing about the Miracle Question is it gives us permission to truly visualize our lives without the things that drain us.  It clarifies what our true goals are.  It also gives us insight as to how we will know when we have met our goals.  Often times, we are empowered by our answers to the Miracle Question.  To illustrate what I am talking about, let me give an example.

Try This Exercise

Perhaps you are tired of feeling stressed.  You would like for the amount of stress you feel in your life to decrease.  Now image that your stress is gone.  Close your eyes and run a movie of your day through your head.  In the movie you are not stressed, but relaxed.  Notice all the subtle changes in your day.  These are the changes that, if they happened, would let you know you reached your goal.  For example, when you wake up in the morning, what do you notice?  What is different?  As you get ready for your day how do you feel?  What things in your relationships or environment are different?  What things are the same?

When you finish this activity reflect on what you learned.  Often times an activity such as this can give us clarity on the change we want to create.  When we get clarity, we are then able to create our change.  Sometimes although we get clarity we still feel stuck on figuring out HOW to make the changes we want.  If you feel stuck, you can reach out to a counselor for support in creating change.  Call our office at 720-583-9332 to set up an appointment.

Written by Dr. Steffanie Stecker

Categories

Schedule a FREE Consultation

We believe in an integrative and holistic approach to help you make the changes you want. Contact us now to schedule an appointment or to request a 20 minute free phone consultation. During this session, you will be invited to share your story and ask any questions you may have.

Recent Articles

A woman holds her baby outside. Get help for postpartum depression and anxiety in Colorado today. Start working with a maternal mental health therapist in Greenwood Village, CO, to overcome postpartum depression and anxiety.

Postpartum Anxiety vs. Postpartum Depression: What’s the Difference?

The mental health of new mothers is crucial, but unfortunately, it is an often overlooked aspect of postpartum care. Being…

Illustration of a red silhouette head with “C-PTSD” text inside, symbolizing emotional trauma, commonly addressed through trauma therapy in Englewood, CO and EMDR therapy in Littleton, CO. Contact a trauma therapist in Englewood, CO for support today..

Understanding Complex PTSD: The Impact of Prolonged Trauma & Path to Healing

Trauma affects everyone differently, but for those who have endured prolonged or repeated traumatic experiences, the impact can be particularly…

A woman is lying next to her baby in bed. While motherhood is a joyous period of life, it also comes with its challenges. Learn how postpartum depression counseling in Englewood, Colorado, can help you let go of burdens and doubts.

6 Common Misconceptions About Maternal Mental Health

There are many misconceptions about maternal mental health. These misconceptions can prevent mothers from seeking the help they need or…

A woman looks overwhelmed while holding her baby. Maternal mental health counseling in Colorado can help new mothers navigate their feelings effectively. Find out how postpartum depression counseling in Englewood, CO can help ease mental burdens.

How to Support a Partner Experiencing Postpartum Depression or Anxiety

Seeing someone you love in pain, whether emotionally, mentally, or physically, can be one of the most difficult experiences in…